Comments on: 7 Ways to Raise a Sizeist Child

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Thu, 01 Oct 2009 14:36:42 +0000

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By: Ammie

Ammie — Mon, 25 May 2009 12:06:29 +0000

I’m a 14 year old girl, and because of the media I feel increasingly feel guilty about my body shape. I know that I shouldn’t be ashamed of my body and that I’m not fat but I can’t help but think that I am when I see stick-thin girls in magazines. I wish the media would stop all of this ‘toothpick-thin-is-beautiful’ rubbish.

I have a friend who is a bit ’sizeist’. If she sees someone who’s fat she says something along the lines of ‘ugh, she’s sooo fat. How does she walk?’ And even though she’s a skinny girl she says things like ‘Waah! I’ve gained SO much weight, I can’t fit into my skinny jeans anymore!’ I don’t know if it’s anything to do with how she was raised or not. I think it’s just her personality though, she’s always very critical of herself and others.

I feel like all of the girls at my school are very self-conscious about their weight as well. Many naturally skinny people talk about how fat they are, and this makes the rest of us not-so-skinny girls feel quite down.

I’m not a ’sizeist’ at all and I think that was because of how I was raised. My mum wouldn’t even let me say words like ‘fat’ and ’stupid’ when I was young and I think it made me very ‘non-sizeist’ and basically very uncritical. I do believe that parents can play a big role in ’sizeism’.
Hope this helped!

By: Rio VonWolf

Rio VonWolf — Sun, 24 May 2009 17:28:41 +0000

John it is not raciest but frustration. Beautiful “hot” women have their detractors too!! People use the word “real” to mean like them!! 66% of Americans are over weigh or obese!! Which means big health problems. That cannot be ignored.
Some time jealousy and envy turns into violence i have had female friends who were well built assaulted by less endowed women in fits of envy!!!
Using pseudo words to justify prejudice of those in good health with well maintained bodies is very wrong sending a message that ill health is ok.

By: Rio VonWolf

Rio VonWolf — Sun, 24 May 2009 17:15:09 +0000

There is no such thing as sizeist!!! This is the “Emperor’s new clothes” syndrome Trying to make up for reality!! There have been world wide studies of women’s bodies in cultures that had no media exposure The finding was that there is a preferred body image. It reflects HEALTH!!! 66% of Americans are over weight or obese!! The true test is waist/hip ratio not just weight per se.

By: Rio VonWolf

Rio VonWolf — Sun, 24 May 2009 17:06:46 +0000

I had to comment.
1st is that the woman of 2009 is generally over weight. I have been around enough to see how much difference the poor diet makes.
Poor diet and “fast food with HUGE proportions are to blame.
I have been to other countries and know that the proliferation of the chains of so called fast food are turning the world fat!
BMI is not a good measurement as it is purly weight. Weight can be heavy mass (muscle) The best is waist-hip ratio.
Muffintop is poorly fitted clothes; as well as figure! Choosing the right size and the best fitting clothes goes a long way to looking good.
Yes there are very jealous people out there. You are what you are! Having a great figure and looking good is wonderful!!

By: John

John — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 08:44:43 +0000

miranda-
you sound very immature. What’s with the racist comments in your post?

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By: miranda

miranda — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 05:48:43 +0000

This is both comforting and humiliating! I am a ethnically mixed child who is half Brasilain and half white (aka boring)
I noticed my white relatives always stared at my large breasts and curvy body always nonstop commenting or reminding me of how DIFFERENT i looked fron the rest of the WHITE buck tooth knock need flat chested immature other chidren my age
I also noticed how my catholic x priest uncles snooty wife casually referred to me as a WHORE at age 12 and “Banned” me from playing with their children claiming I LOOKED TOO much like a whore!
I Loved my cousins yet I felt Persecuted hated judged then I became discussted at grown men how they made ugly comments comparing me to their wives who theyd say :”look at Miranda shes only 12 yet she looks more womanly than my wife her aunt so and so..well my aunt “so and so” went to get plastic surgery on her supposedly “unacceptable breasts” because she wanted to be as large as ME..this I found very humiliating it made me sad it made me see how “worthless” Men are as life forms! and destroyed my trust and interest in wanting to marry or have children I felt “why” bother? they just drop you for some other feline! I never wanted to be humiliated like that…then my uncle divoriced my aunt claiming her “Breasts” were hard and fake now!..sadly I felt “Responsible”??
I became very Religious to “Counter act?compensate for this uncomfortable reality…my exotic curvy body yet I feel at home on stage performing cuz while starring at my boobs people at least could see I can sing -dance and Act..to this day.I discovered a silent “denied” lied about truth! untill my present boy friend told me respectfully to go onto this web site..he sees me only late at night..cuz we both dont want people to humiliate him or me ie him cuz his career could be compromised..cuz people will think hes a “pervert” cuz hes with a lady who average white people would say “I look like a PORN STAR” yet..its only cuz I exorcise…eat right and respect my body yet our culture that is the average white MIND is so arrogant in claiming to have the “OWNERS MANUEL on “NORMAL” they so far as tried to make it a “Scientific” truth by saying at a certain age all healthy NORMAL people ie “THEMSELVES” have a blood pressure of 120/80 cuz THEY are the NORMAL CORRECT LOOKING RACE
bah,,,truth I can say this cuz Im mixed I think the average white person is “UGLY” their skin looks like uncooked sausage after 25 they get a horrible atrophied body so easily that they MUST have plastic surgery or look like a melted snow man forever so they join a church where other ugly people go and join a force of finding bible verses that back up how ok it is to be as ugly as them
they say people should love you for your heart not other things but thats after they had a life style of laughing at ME then they see me enter the church and suddenly Im “Mary Magdalene” Plzzzz
its a Intelligent person who can enjoy the garden God created of colorful people..and love and adore the exotic interesting nuances of humanity! yet white race is toooooooooooooooooo Casual and they “Minimize” this BAD UGLY habit they have of expoising how unattractive they CAN BE! few I DISCOVERED DONT THINK THIS WAY! for example my boy friend is very adoring to me yet out of concern for the safety and security of his job I agree to only see him late at night or in another location where his “Pharisee friends” cant see him and I…plus in film Im always despite my many advanced colledge degrees and talents Im just the actress with big TITS AND ALL the audience wants to know is :”ARE MY TITS REAL?
SO AFTER THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE ASKING MY THIS last week during a Hollywood show i thought for a minute I met a gentleman , some nice man helped me carry my costume bag by lifting it for me while breathlessly panting in my ear “are your BOOBS REAL haahahhhhahhhhahhhhg! or ARTIFICIAL” so I waited untill the other actors borded the same van then I shouted to the bus:”..guess what?”…. the only artifiscial thing in my life! is my family and Friends!
so the entire bus load of actors were silent! FROZEN ! LIKE SOMEONE CUT OUT THEIR TOUNGES! for the first time I felt good like I finally found the magic word! shock them back even more! so thats how I fight back now! I repeat loudly what whispered with spit and slaiva in my ears! now Im happy to find a WORD that describes why my life has been so challenging…Ive lost jobs cuz of my figure been thrown out of CATHOLIC CHURCHES for being told I would seduce the priest and marry him! so LIFE is really not so sweet for blessed for ladies liie me.!
.plus Men I discovered marry the non threatening EARTH MUFFIN SOCKER MOM TYPE while trying to make me their mistress…so my theroy on not admiring men much has proved true..I try to see them as a viable 2 legged homosapian yet I never met ONE Id care to keep as a permanent house Pet so thats it..Im happy cuz I love myself and Jesus yet I dont care to “bare” any mans kids cuz no man deserves me cuz I never met one I liked enough!
to lower my STANDARDS for? Im very comfortable and happy as a heterosexual yet I feel so blessed cuz Im “cured{” of the hideous affliction of wanting acceptance now!
I accept myself and laugh silently to myself as Im thanking God now that he made me so exotic yet Im vigilant in being cautious where I go cuz Im tired and “bored” of being around too many boring insecure non threatening Anglo people who are hung up cuz they dont look like me!..I only have 2 true white female friends who I adore as sisters who are not threatened by me! plus gay men are awesome to me..they are so protective and supportive of me and my career so I just wanted to share what its like not to be ugly and WHITE ! only half white!…to me its the inner soul I see cuz my Mom was white and she was awesome….I loved her heart I learned to see into the hearts..funny thing I REMEMBER my Moms eyes were so blue that Id say as a kid..”Mom where are YOU? cuz blue eyes are so fascinating I use to get lost looking in them yet my Dads eyes were so black that I never had trouble finding him in his eyes cuz I always saw my reflection back as a mirror yet in comparrison to my MOM I REMEMBER getting scared at blues eyes cuz I couldnt see my reflection back to regisiter for sure that my Mom was really behind her eyes..isnt that kind of weird? yet I learned to LOVE and appreciate all cultures.but white peopoe seem to only want to be around them selves? thats what ai never understoood? but Brasil is so mixed that no real anglo people exist so I hope USA finds a more humain way ! its most dominant in USA I lived in 30 different countries already and USA needs to get beyound the obsession of looking at only seeing outside
Peace to us al amen!

By: Shaping Youth

Shaping Youth — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 19:12:04 +0000

Hate to admit it, but I was RAISED a ’sizeist’ child! It’s very hard to deconstruct and mitigate my own worldviews, when seen through the lens of ‘fat phobic’ parents…They never intended to do so, but ’sizeism’ was always in play as an embedded correlation to ‘lack of self control’ —We see this often among healthy, fit people who snub based on size in a ’show some restraint, bozo’ sort of disdain.

I WILL say that awareness is everything, because once I had a child it was VERY obvious to me, and I actually voiced my concern about any verbal spars landing in her presence…they self-reined quite nicely, and never really realized they were doing it!

It’s kind of like standing around someone making a racist joke, if you don’t speak up, you become complicit by default.

That’s the way I feel about ensuring sizeism doesn’t leak onto the next generation…You have a voice and a choice to how you want to raise a child with a healthy, compassionate worldview.