Comments on: 7 Ways to NOT be a Helicopter Parent When Approaching Teachers http://www.drrobynsilverman.com/parenting-tips/how-not-to-be-a-helicopter-parent-7-ways-to-approach-a-teacher-with-a-concern/ The Official Blog of Dr. Robyn Silverman Sat, 31 Jul 2010 03:16:49 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.2 hourly 1 By: Helicopter Parents Following Children into Their 20s? « Dr. Robyn Silverman’s Blog http://www.drrobynsilverman.com/parenting-tips/how-not-to-be-a-helicopter-parent-7-ways-to-approach-a-teacher-with-a-concern/comment-page-1/#comment-876 Helicopter Parents Following Children into Their 20s? « Dr. Robyn Silverman’s Blog Thu, 30 Jul 2009 00:06:44 +0000 http://drrobyn.wordpress.com/?p=681#comment-876 [...] themselves—the ones trying to get out from under their parents’ thumbs when it comes to school, new situations, going out, dating, and more. But get this—these children are hardly children [...] [...] themselves—the ones trying to get out from under their parents’ thumbs when it comes to school, new situations, going out, dating, and more. But get this—these children are hardly children [...]

]]> By: Letters to their Helicopter Parents from their Children: First of Series « Dr. Robyn Silverman’s Blog http://www.drrobynsilverman.com/parenting-tips/how-not-to-be-a-helicopter-parent-7-ways-to-approach-a-teacher-with-a-concern/comment-page-1/#comment-875 Letters to their Helicopter Parents from their Children: First of Series « Dr. Robyn Silverman’s Blog Tue, 18 Nov 2008 16:52:32 +0000 http://drrobyn.wordpress.com/?p=681#comment-875 [...] on Helicopter Parents because of the number of questions and letters I’ve received on the topic lately from our readers. The letters in this series are all taken from the comments section of one [...] [...] on Helicopter Parents because of the number of questions and letters I’ve received on the topic lately from our readers. The letters in this series are all taken from the comments section of one [...]

]]> By: Tina http://www.drrobynsilverman.com/parenting-tips/how-not-to-be-a-helicopter-parent-7-ways-to-approach-a-teacher-with-a-concern/comment-page-1/#comment-874 Tina Sun, 19 Oct 2008 01:30:35 +0000 http://drrobyn.wordpress.com/?p=681#comment-874 I think I would be called a "helicopter" parent with my youngest child, but I would call myself a concerned parent. I am a former teacher who is now in an administrative position in a school. How do you know when you have crossed the line from concerned to helicopter? My child is now in 4th grade and, in my opinion, has only had 1 teacher that has been truly successful with him. He has lost such valuable time, I just can't be patient anymore. I think I would be called a “helicopter” parent with my youngest child, but I would call myself a concerned parent. I am a former teacher who is now in an administrative position in a school. How do you know when you have crossed the line from concerned to helicopter? My child is now in 4th grade and, in my opinion, has only had 1 teacher that has been truly successful with him. He has lost such valuable time, I just can’t be patient anymore.

]]> By: Dr. Robyn http://www.drrobynsilverman.com/parenting-tips/how-not-to-be-a-helicopter-parent-7-ways-to-approach-a-teacher-with-a-concern/comment-page-1/#comment-871 Dr. Robyn Fri, 26 Sep 2008 13:52:26 +0000 http://drrobyn.wordpress.com/?p=681#comment-871 HI Ally- Thanks for the comment-- yes, It's vital that we know the facts and are prepared to listen. It's a challenge to stay level headed but so necessary for the good of everyone. I peeked at your blog too-- nice work! Come back again-- Dr. Robyn HI Ally-

Thanks for the comment– yes, It’s vital that we know the facts and are prepared to listen. It’s a challenge to stay level headed but so necessary for the good of everyone.

I peeked at your blog too– nice work!

Come back again–

Dr. Robyn

]]> By: Ally sal http://www.drrobynsilverman.com/parenting-tips/how-not-to-be-a-helicopter-parent-7-ways-to-approach-a-teacher-with-a-concern/comment-page-1/#comment-870 Ally sal Fri, 26 Sep 2008 10:22:34 +0000 http://drrobyn.wordpress.com/?p=681#comment-870 I think its very important to know the facts. We must also understand the position of the teacher and be prepared to listen to what they have to say. Often it so happens that we are full of emotion that we tend to prejudge the whole situation in favor of the child. I think its very important to know the facts. We must also understand the position of the teacher and be prepared to listen to what they have to say. Often it so happens that we are full of emotion that we tend to prejudge the whole situation in favor of the child.

]]> By: Dr. Robyn http://www.drrobynsilverman.com/parenting-tips/how-not-to-be-a-helicopter-parent-7-ways-to-approach-a-teacher-with-a-concern/comment-page-1/#comment-873 Dr. Robyn Thu, 25 Sep 2008 15:54:27 +0000 http://drrobyn.wordpress.com/?p=681#comment-873 EXCELLENT point! You are quite right. Children (and teens) want to be able to go to their parents to bounce ideas off of them, receive reassurance, get some empathy, and gain confidence or perspective. Sometimes children and teens just want to be heard-- and talk freely to supportive people (like parents!) to blow off steam and get something off their chests. I've received numerous comments lately about helicopter parents-- and the need for parents to take a step back so that children can take a step forward. Thank you so much for your comment. Please visit us again. Dr. Robyn EXCELLENT point! You are quite right. Children (and teens) want to be able to go to their parents to bounce ideas off of them, receive reassurance, get some empathy, and gain confidence or perspective. Sometimes children and teens just want to be heard– and talk freely to supportive people (like parents!) to blow off steam and get something off their chests.

I’ve received numerous comments lately about helicopter parents– and the need for parents to take a step back so that children can take a step forward.

Thank you so much for your comment. Please visit us again.

Dr. Robyn

]]> By: 4wrdthnkndad http://www.drrobynsilverman.com/parenting-tips/how-not-to-be-a-helicopter-parent-7-ways-to-approach-a-teacher-with-a-concern/comment-page-1/#comment-872 4wrdthnkndad Thu, 25 Sep 2008 15:48:52 +0000 http://drrobyn.wordpress.com/?p=681#comment-872 In addition to your great advice, I'd offer the following. When my sons bring up concerns with their teachers, I've come to learn they are often simply wanting reassurance and empathy. They don't often really want me "to fix" anything as much as they want to know if I can also be available to them when they are sad, scared, and frustrated as easily as I can be there when they are happy, positive, and fun. In addition to your great advice, I’d offer the following. When my sons bring up concerns with their teachers, I’ve come to learn they are often simply wanting reassurance and empathy. They don’t often really want me “to fix” anything as much as they want to know if I can also be available to them when they are sad, scared, and frustrated as easily as I can be there when they are happy, positive, and fun.

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