Comments on: Would you like to Give Away your Child? http://www.drrobynsilverman.com/parenting-tips/would-you-like-to-give-away-your-child/ The Official Blog of Dr. Robyn Silverman Fri, 12 Mar 2010 03:46:37 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.2 hourly 1 By: Glenda http://www.drrobynsilverman.com/parenting-tips/would-you-like-to-give-away-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-1995 Glenda Wed, 28 Oct 2009 03:33:58 +0000 http://drrobyn.wordpress.com/?p=930#comment-1995 I think its completely fair. A parent can't dicipline their children anymore because the government took that from us. Teens are unruly in school and the school can't do anything because the government won't allow it. I'm all for it! Kids don't have to be responsible anymore either. The government made sure of that. This is good. There are days I'm about ready to bring mine down. I think its completely fair. A parent can’t dicipline their children anymore because the government took that from us. Teens are unruly in school and the school can’t do anything because the government won’t allow it. I’m all for it! Kids don’t have to be responsible anymore either. The government made sure of that. This is good. There are days I’m about ready to bring mine down.

]]> By: violet triplett http://www.drrobynsilverman.com/parenting-tips/would-you-like-to-give-away-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-962 violet triplett Mon, 08 Dec 2008 02:12:26 +0000 http://drrobyn.wordpress.com/?p=930#comment-962 i got a 14 year old child and she been acting crazy where can i drop her off at i got a 14 year old child and she been acting crazy where can i drop her off at

]]> By: Dr. Robyn http://www.drrobynsilverman.com/parenting-tips/would-you-like-to-give-away-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-961 Dr. Robyn Thu, 13 Nov 2008 19:37:38 +0000 http://drrobyn.wordpress.com/?p=930#comment-961 This is an EXCELLENT point, Nicole. Everyone is in need of support and resources. SO when this safe haven law is taken away, then what? And the fact that so many have responded to the safe haven law shows that there is an underlying issue. Of course you're not a bad Mom. I hear the plea for help-- and THAT is the issue here more so than anything else. Please come back again. Dr. Robyn This is an EXCELLENT point, Nicole. Everyone is in need of support and resources. SO when this safe haven law is taken away, then what? And the fact that so many have responded to the safe haven law shows that there is an underlying issue.

Of course you’re not a bad Mom. I hear the plea for help– and THAT is the issue here more so than anything else.

Please come back again.

Dr. Robyn

]]> By: Nicole http://www.drrobynsilverman.com/parenting-tips/would-you-like-to-give-away-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-960 Nicole Wed, 12 Nov 2008 23:50:32 +0000 http://drrobyn.wordpress.com/?p=930#comment-960 I have family members who have had foster kids in their home, and there are all sorts of resources available to them if they are struggling with a child. She can send them to respite care for the night. She can take them to a psychologist if needed, no charge. Free parenting classes are available. And on and on. I have 3 of my own and have no resources available to me. Because they are my own children. So clearly I would never have any issues, right? So wrong! I have suffered with severe PPD and there are certainly days that I think I probably would've dropped my kids off somewhere if it had been a choice. Now don't judge me. I'm not a bad mom. I just believe that such an action on a parent's part is not so much them saying they don't love their kids. It's more a desperate plea for help! I have family members who have had foster kids in their home, and there are all sorts of resources available to them if they are struggling with a child. She can send them to respite care for the night. She can take them to a psychologist if needed, no charge. Free parenting classes are available. And on and on.

I have 3 of my own and have no resources available to me. Because they are my own children. So clearly I would never have any issues, right? So wrong! I have suffered with severe PPD and there are certainly days that I think I probably would’ve dropped my kids off somewhere if it had been a choice.

Now don’t judge me. I’m not a bad mom. I just believe that such an action on a parent’s part is not so much them saying they don’t love their kids. It’s more a desperate plea for help!

]]> By: Dr. Robyn http://www.drrobynsilverman.com/parenting-tips/would-you-like-to-give-away-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-959 Dr. Robyn Tue, 11 Nov 2008 14:21:11 +0000 http://drrobyn.wordpress.com/?p=930#comment-959 Hello Jennifer- I think you hit the nail on the head-- there is a much larger issue here. What assistance IS in place for these parents and children? What are the issues that these parents are struggling with and how can the state help them to cope? By taking care of the parents-- and the families as a whole-- we are indeed taking care of the children. Do the families know what's out there for them? Is it an issue of not knowing what assistance is available or an issue of not having the assistance in place in that state? You can just imagine that these parents, upon hearing about the safe haven law, were at such desperation to conclude that yes, this is a possible solution. Thanks for your insightful comment. Dr. Robyn Hello Jennifer-

I think you hit the nail on the head– there is a much larger issue here. What assistance IS in place for these parents and children? What are the issues that these parents are struggling with and how can the state help them to cope? By taking care of the parents– and the families as a whole– we are indeed taking care of the children. Do the families know what’s out there for them? Is it an issue of not knowing what assistance is available or an issue of not having the assistance in place in that state? You can just imagine that these parents, upon hearing about the safe haven law, were at such desperation to conclude that yes, this is a possible solution.

Thanks for your insightful comment.

Dr. Robyn

]]> By: Dr. Robyn http://www.drrobynsilverman.com/parenting-tips/would-you-like-to-give-away-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-958 Dr. Robyn Tue, 11 Nov 2008 14:17:11 +0000 http://drrobyn.wordpress.com/?p=930#comment-958 Thank you, Vicki- clearly these parents were struggling. I wonder about their support network. In addition, might we figure, that by having or adopting children, we are saying "til death do us part?" Yes, very unfair to the children. Dr. Robyn Thank you, Vicki- clearly these parents were struggling. I wonder about their support network. In addition, might we figure, that by having or adopting children, we are saying “til death do us part?” Yes, very unfair to the children.

Dr. Robyn

]]> By: Jennifer Ryan http://www.drrobynsilverman.com/parenting-tips/would-you-like-to-give-away-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-957 Jennifer Ryan Tue, 11 Nov 2008 04:49:52 +0000 http://drrobyn.wordpress.com/?p=930#comment-957 No, this isn't fair. However, these scenarios bring up some really BIG issues that should be addressed. Yes, better parenting is needed. Yes, it is inappropriate and sad. So, what now? Do we merely change the verbiage of the bill or do we take action against an issue that needs to be addressed? From my perspective, we can get really mad about this situation, but it's not really an issue of "unfairness." Of course it's not right. But who cares. There's a bigger issue at hand here and that is that there are children who are being abandoned by their parents who, by the way, are obviously BEGGING for assistance. I say, we need to do our job as citizens, and give them assistance. Right or wrong isn't the issue, nor is fairness. Taking care of the children in the best way possible is a bigger issue. No, this isn’t fair. However, these scenarios bring up some really BIG issues that should be addressed. Yes, better parenting is needed. Yes, it is inappropriate and sad. So, what now? Do we merely change the verbiage of the bill or do we take action against an issue that needs to be addressed?

From my perspective, we can get really mad about this situation, but it’s not really an issue of “unfairness.” Of course it’s not right. But who cares. There’s a bigger issue at hand here and that is that there are children who are being abandoned by their parents who, by the way, are obviously BEGGING for assistance. I say, we need to do our job as citizens, and give them assistance. Right or wrong isn’t the issue, nor is fairness. Taking care of the children in the best way possible is a bigger issue.

]]> By: Vicki http://www.drrobynsilverman.com/parenting-tips/would-you-like-to-give-away-your-child/comment-page-1/#comment-956 Vicki Tue, 11 Nov 2008 01:39:22 +0000 http://drrobyn.wordpress.com/?p=930#comment-956 This is unfair to those kids. I'm going to guess and say that none of those drop off parents attend church. I'm also going to guess that their parenting skills have been lacking over the years. They should have been reading your blog. This is unfair to those kids. I’m going to guess and say that none of those drop off parents attend church. I’m also going to guess that their parenting skills have been lacking over the years. They should have been reading your blog.

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