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Dr. Robyn introduces the Powerful Word for October: Diligence!

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All month long, our outstanding Powerful Words Member Schools will be talking with their students about the powerful word, diligence! How do you teach your children to carry out their tasks with great care and consistent effort until that task is completed? At a time when so many multi-task and desire to get as much done as quickly as possible, does diligence suffer?  What do YOU think?

Diligence Quotes:

“What we hope ever to do with ease, we must learn first to do with diligence.” — Samuel Johnson

“Diligence is not found in the short, sporadic sprints but in the careful, consistent marathon.” — Dr. Robyn Silverman

“Care and diligence bring luck.” — Thomas Fuller

“Chaos is inherent in all compounded things. Strive on with diligence.” — Buddha

“The expectations of life depend upon diligence; the mechanic that would perfect his work must first sharpen his tools.” — Confucius

“If your determination is fixed, I do not counsel you to despair. Few things are impossible to diligence and skill. Great works are performed not by strength, but perseverance.” — Samuel Johnson

Children & Swearing: Dr. Robyn Silverman on Good Morning America as Child/Teen Development Expert

A new study is telling us that children as young as 2 years old are swearing more than ever.

Of course they are!

We see so much more swearing through TV, internet, and other technology that it’s become normalized. Something like WTF has become part of the culture that it’s like an entity in itself- people don’t even think of it like a swear and it becomes more “funny” than offensive to people. However, we cant just blame media for that- what’s handed down through the media is then delivered through a trusted source such as parents or peers- then it makes a real difference.

So, while I’m not surprised by the results of the study, it’s important to note that people are quick to just point the finger at media. As parents, peers and educators we must realize that we need to take some responsibility for it as well. We can take some control over it.

What should you do if your children are swearing? If you don’t want children to swear, you need to first look at your own behavior.  If you are swearing, if someone in your household or family is swearing, if you are watching media where swearing is prevalent, these are some things that you can curb.

You also need to look at your own reaction to these words.  If you hear it and laugh or hear it and fly off the deep end, your child has discovered a very intriguing way to push your buttons and he will likely do it again.

We also need to set boundaries and rules around swearing. If you don’t want your children to swear, and they currently are, set the rules that you want them to follow and the consequences if it happens again. Then, be consistent with those rules and consequences.

Finally, make sure to underscore your values.  Make respect and impulse control part of your own Powerful Words in your home.

You might be wondering; what’s the big deal? It might not always seem to be! When kids are amongst their peers, it might be considered cool or just simply, “normal.” But when your child drops the “F-Bomb” or the you-know-what hits the fan in mixed company (with his teacher, when talking to his principal, in front of your mother-in-law!) then people might conclude that perhaps the parent is using these words at home, that the parent has no control over their children, or that the parenting itself is too lax. That may not be the actual truth—but these days, perception seems to trump accuracy!

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Introducing the New Powerful Word of the Month: Dependability

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The Powerful Word of the Month is Dependability! Here are some great “dependability quotes” to get us inspired!

“Promises are like crying babies in a theater, they should be carried out at once.” (Norman Vincent Peale, preacher, author, and originator of the “Power of Positive Thinking.”)

“Be the person who can keep a secret, isn’t a gossip, and can be counted on in all situations.” (Larry Winget)

“People will judge you by your actions, not your intentions.  You may have a heart of gold – but so does a hard-boiled egg.” (unknown)

“Some favorite expressions of small children: “It’s not my fault. . . They made me do it. . . I forgot.”  Some favorite expressions of adults: “It’s not my job. . . No one told me. . . It couldn’t be helped.”  True freedom begins and ends with personal accountability.” (Dan Zandra)

“Show up. Be on time. Follow through even when it’s inconvenient. Sometimes being dependable means getting uncomfortable for the good of somebody else.” (Dr. Robyn Silverman)

Have a Powerful Month!

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Congratulations, Powerful Kids! How These Kids are Showing Discipline!

balloonsThe Powerful Words Projects this month asked for the students to submit how they are showing discipline in their lives.  I’m proud to say congratulations to these top 3 Powerful Kids! We applaud you!

  1. Bryce Logan—who submitted his answer first! He writes from Mr. Prieto’s school, Chun Kuk Do Karate of the Woodlands, and says “I show discipline when I pick up my toys when my Mommy asks me to.” Excellent job, Bryce! The rest of the students at Mr. Prieto’s class must be very proud to have such a disciplined student in their class!
  2. Stacy Fizser of Shongum School tells us just how it is when it comes to discipline. She wrote to me and said; “I think the most powerful reason to use discipline is: if you don’t use discipline you won’t be successful in life. You won’t be able to live up to your potential.” Yes, I think you are quite right, Stacy.  Discipline helps us to do what needs to get done in order to achieve the goals we set out to achieve!
  3. Kaycie Cutler, age 4 ½ , is a Tiny Tiger Isshinryu karate student at New Jersey Martial Arts Academy in Roxbury, NJ.  Her favorite part of karate is obstacle courses!  She shows discipline by “doing my karate homework!” Great job, Kaycie.  I am sure that your instructors appreciate your discipline!

Terrific job! Keep on being the Powerful students and people that you are! Looking forward to hearing from you next month, when we talk about dependability!

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Discipline…The October Powerful Word of the Month

Do your children and teens listen to the external rules guiding them to do what is expected of them in the home, at school, and out in the community? Most of the time? That’s a big part of discipline, our Powerful Word of the Month.  But there is also another part– making sure that they are listening to their own internal rules, which we, at our Powerful Words Member Schools call “I- Rules.” I-Rules tell us what to do when nobody is there to remind us of “the rules” but it also reminds us of our own rules– the rules that are in line with our character– that tell us to keep going when we’re frustrated, be truthful even when we want to lie, and be respectful even when we’re grumpy.

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Discipline is an extremely powerful word! I love this word! So it’s exciting that our amazing Powerful Words Member Schools are teaching it this month…and every month

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Ask Dr. Robyn: My Child Has No Self Discipline!

Both discipline, the Powerful Word of the Month, and self discipline, are very important action-oriented words that help us become successful.  Without paying attention to the external rules and what is expected of us, and our internal rules (our “I-Rules,” as we call them at Powerful Words Member Schools), that govern who we are and what we do even when nobody is watching, we have no direction, no focus, and nothing to keep us on task.  This is why it’s imperative that we help our children develop a strong regard for discipline and self discipline in their lives. So what do you do when your child lacks it? Read more

PARENTS! FREE Back to School Fears Teleseminar Wednesday Night 8/26

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FREE “How to Help Your Children Deal with Their Back to School Fears” Teleseminar!

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Good morning powerful parents!

After I was interviewed as the parenting expert for Education.com on How to Deal with Back to School Fears in Children and related articles, I was contacted my several parents who wanted to know more.  They were having many issues and concerns with how their children handled “newness,” especially the transition to school.

So I’m offering a special FREE Parenting Tele-Seminar TOMORROW for all Powerful Parents on Back to School Fears and Dealing with New Situations.

The Teleseminar will take place on THIS COMING WEDNESDAY, August 26th at8pm EASTERN, 7pm CENTRAL, 6pm MOUNTAIN, and 5pm PACIFIC.

There are a limited number of lines—and only a few left now that we are closer to the date.  Please sign up now to be part of this FREE event!

We will be going over several concerns and questions including:

  • What are some typical fears that children will be dealing with when going back to school?
  • How would parents know if their children are really having a problem?
  • What specific action steps can parents to take to help their children cope?
  • What would cause a child to exclaim “I’m never going back!”
  • What big mistakes can parents make in these situations?

And other questions too!

Looking forward to hearing you on the teleseminar! Sign up here!

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How to Build a Powerful Confident Child: Confidence Quotes

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The powerful word of the month this month is confidence! Confidence is one of my favorite words because I feel that it’s the foundation for positive learning and living. With confidence, our children have the courage to try new things, meet new people, and be the person they were meant to be.

We never want children to pretend to be something they’re not because they believe that people will like them better if they are some imitation of someone else more popular. As Judy Garland once said, “Be a first rate version of yourself, not a second rate version of someone else”. With confidence, children can be innovative, creative, bold and assertive.

Nothing dampens a child’s ability to grow like a lack of confidence in oneself. We must encourage without over-praising, challenge without criticizing or hurrying, and love without comparing. As powerful parents, we are the first and last stop in our children’s day. As such, we must help to inspire one’s morning confidence so that they can be bold while learning and socializing at school and in their after-school activities.

On the flip side, we also must help them to wind down at night. That means asking about their day and telling them about ours. It means allowing them to review their choices and interactions, helping them problem solve and think of better ways of doing things, and, of course helping to ease them into a comfortable sleep knowing that they are loved just the way they are, no matter what decisions they made or fumbles that occurred. This is the amazing, challenging, and awesome job of a powerful parent.

CONFIDENCE QUOTES

“Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside of them was superior to circumstance.” ~Bruce Barton

“Laugh at yourself, but don’t ever aim your doubt at yourself. Be bold. When you embark for strange places, don’t leave any of yourself safely on shore. Have the nerve to go into unexplored territory.” – Alan Alda

Two people, equally matched, equally prepared, equally determined to win. Who will be the winner? It’s certain to be the one with the confidence to say, “It’s me.” –Dr. Robyn Silverman

“The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure.” –Sven Goran Eriksson

“The man who acquires the ability to take full possession of his own mind may take possession of anything else to which he is justly entitled.” – Andrew Carnegie

“I quit being afraid when my first venture failed and the sky didn’t fall down.” – Allen H. Neuharth

“Aerodynamically the bumblebee shouldn’t be able to fly, but the bumblebee doesn’t know that so it goes on flying anyway.” ~Mary Kay Ash

God wisely designed the human body so that we can neither pat our own backs nor kick ourselves too easily. ~Author Unknown

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Dr. Robyn Answers: What Makes Powerful Words so Powerful for Kids?

What Makes Powerful Words So Powerful for Kids?

I’ve received some questions about Powerful Words Character Development lately and I wanted to take a moment to answer why Powerful Words is so powerful for children and why powerful parents are choosing schools that teach Powerful Words.

What’s so special about schools that teach Powerful Words?

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Dr. Robyn, what’s a Power-Chat and how can it help my child or teen?

Dear Dr. Robyn,

I’ve heard you talking about “PowerChats” at the schools that teach Powerful Words. Can you tell me what a PowerChat is and how they might help my children?

Thanks,

Lisa Able, Chicago, IL

The most professional, progressive, and family-friendly sports activity-based academies don’t just teach a physical curriculum. They teach Powerful Words Character Development which inspires children, teens, and adults to become their very best!

One of the signature parts of the best character programs is the way each Powerful Word is conveyed to the students. In an after-school program, in which time is tight and attention spans can be short, a Power-chat is the perfect solution.

I create new, age-appropriate Power-chats every month for our member schools! A Power-chat is the five minute discussion about the featured Powerful Word of the Month. For example, this month’s Powerful Word is Tolerance and last month’s was fairness. These Power-chats are taught in every class so that each lesson builds on the last but does not repeat (so the children stay interested and excited about learning!).

Children, teens, and adults can answer questions about the Powerful Word, along with their classmates, and discuss how it’s important to them, how they’re exhibiting it, and any challenges they’ve seen with regard to that Powerful Word.  The Power-Chat allows the student to have a special interaction with their teacher as well as with others in their class while they are stretching and learning about character. While character is enhanced when adults model good character for their children, children also must be taught.  Powerful Words provides the lessons in an environment that supports and encourages powerful character.

I encourage leadership team members (usually teens and young adults) to help teach the Powerful Word in class as part of their own development as a leader. This accomplishes a few things (1) It provides older peer to younger peer learning—a great way to hold children’s attention; (2) It helps the teens and young adults get comfortable in front of a class and gain respect; and (3) By teaching Powerful Words, young leaders tend to absorb the messages and raise the bar when it comes to their own character. If your child is a leadership member or would like to be, this might be an area in which he or she can thrive.

Many of our member schools are open to you visiting and watching a Powerchat in action.  If you’re looking for a school in your area that teaches Powerful Words, please don’t hesitate to contact me.

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Same as it never was

There’s something about coming home. I’m currently in NJ where I grew up and yet, I’m not really where I once was. Since my Dad passed away way too early and entirely too suddenly in 2006 from liver cancer, my Mom has since moved out of the house where I spent my entire childhood and moved into what I think can only be described as a college dorm of 55 and olders. Yes, the sticky floors and keg parties have been replaced with lovely apartments and games of cards, but still, my Mom lives steps from many of her best friends who get together nearly everyday.

These friends, all who seem familiar and yet many whom I had never met– appear to thankfully absorb some of the pain of loss and help to create new, fun memories for this now much more independent woman. I admit, I miss my old house– the memories– the way things were– but even if we were there, things wouldn’t be the same, would they? And my Mom wouldn’t be finding this new “life” in her life.

When I was a teenager, whenever I returned home from camp, or later, from college, I marveled about what was different. The bathroom countertop always seemed shorter, somehow, my reflection just a little bit older, and my room just a little bit smaller.

Now I look for what’s the same. It’s comforting to see the same restaurants, the same people, and the same stores. It’s challenging to rely on “sameness” though, isn’t it? It’s almost unfair. We change and yet, expect things to stay the same. Sameness gives us a marker of progress, a feeling of comfort, and something to depend on.

As the children go back to school in many areas of the world, and many tears are shed (mostly by the parents who are stunned that time has flown by) how can we welcome change when we rely on sameness?

  1. Talk about the good times but don’t dwell on the past: It’s often fun to meet up with old friends, talk about old times, and relive the memories. However, living in the past is both dangerous and impractical.
  2. Look for the good in change: While change can be unsettling for anyone– whether we’re talking about a child or a parent–it’s vital that we identify what benefits have made themselves known due to this change. There’s a reason cliches like “every cloud has a silver lining” exist.
  3. Don’t make “better/worse” comparisons: When we talk about what was better in the past, especially when it comes to things we can not change, we are setting ourselves up to feeling bad. Yes, things may be different, and yes, you might want to improve your current circumstances, but that should urge you to look forward rather than back!
  4. Tame your fears about change: Change doesn’t need to be negative. Change can be quite wonderful. We all have fears that tell us to hold onto the status quo. But often, the most wonderful things happen when we’re willing to take a risk and embrace the future.

Remember– the way you look at change is going to influence the way your children approach it.

Here’s to growing up and smiling at what’s to come-